Do NOT give up on you!

Do NOT give up on you!

Is it okay that I own that I’m sad today? Someone I care about deeply is going through dark and difficult times. A lifetime of abuse and neglect has finally caught up with them in a shitstorm of epic proportions and, not seeing a way through, they’ve essentially given...
The Trauma of Magick

The Trauma of Magick

We’re reading My Grandmother’s Hands as part of a leadership group I run. It is a brilliant and breathtaking book about trauma… specifically racialized trauma and the pathway to mending hearts and bodies. I emphasize the last part because, as Resmaa Menakem teaches...
You can find healing…

You can find healing…

When the doctors told me I would never be more than 60-80% of the human I was before the robberies and my PTSD, I was devastated. Worse, I believed them. (So did Joe.) And we made plans to compensate for this “lack”. ❌ Deb would never work.❌ Deb would never function...
Why can’t you be first?

Why can’t you be first?

Who told you that you’re not allowed to be your priority? And who benefits from your belief that this rule is true? I think that second question is the most important. (Wish I could take credit, but it was my friend Sarah Paikai who taught me to ask it.) Really… go...